What real love is. If someone’s love comes with conditions, then I don’t want it. “Yes I love you, but if you do this then I won’t love you anymore” sounds childish, but you know there are people who operate this way, and maybe with some introspection, you may realize you are one of those people.

I haven’t had a Valentine in years. Some years I’m more bitter about it than others lol and even though I always say my subscribers are my Valentine’s (cause they are!), y’all know what I mean. For a certified lover girl such as myself, everyday is Valentine’s day! More so than being a “lover girl” though, as a child of God, I am tasked with the responsibility of moving with love in all that I do. Love is a Lifestyle. 

It would be right of you to ask “how can that be?” – y’know with the state of the world being what it is and all, and with the way that some people move, they can seem rather “hard to love”. Honestly, that part isn’t really my problem, because a person’s actions do not dictate the love I have to give. True love is Unconditional. 

If there was a world record for heart breaks, my name would be undefeated in that Guinness Book. You might not think that’s something to brag about, but I do! No matter how many times I’ve been hurt, I have never stopped being a lover girl, and I’ve never stopped loving the ones who have hurt me. Again, I am aware that may not be a thing to brag about, but if you understand where i’m coming from, then hopefully it will make sense. 

Unconditional love, does not mean unconditional tolerance, or lack of boundaries. You have to love yourself more than anyone else in this world for this lifestyle to work. My love for myself is second only to my love for God, and I could never say that I love God if I don’t love his people. That don’t mean I like everybody though. In fact, there’s quite a few people that I can’t stand. However, if they needed the shirt off my back, I’d give it to them without batting an eye. (At least I’d like to think so, I’m no saint). 

The word of God says that “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. Now if you can find in there where it lays out the terms and conditions, or the requirements one must meet in order to “earn” love, then I’ll be happy to oblige, but I just know that’s not how God works. 

Then the argument of “well what about those rapists and serial killers, do you think they’re worthy of love?” Some questions we just gone have to wait til we get to Heaven to ask, all I can say is that I just pray I never have to be close enough to one of them types to even think about that.

Unlike some of my other blog posts or YouTube videos that are one and done, this conversation is one that will be continuously had. Evil and hatred abound in this world, and people who share (and execute) my sentiments are far and few between. The message of love will never get old or go out of style, and there is so much ground still yet to cover.

I say all this because there’s something specific on my heart I felt I needed to share, and it wasn’t necessarily the direction I wanted to take this, but I just need to get it off my chest. The church often preaches this message of “modesty”, referring to outward appearance – but quickly turns a deaf ear when the topic of inward modesty arises. I’ve encountered some people who without a doubt meet the mark for outward modesty, I’m sure a trophy awaits you in heaven – but how is your heart? Is your unforgiveness, modest? Is your pride, modest? Or is it just your love that is modest – when it ought to be unconditional?

Might sound like I’m judging, but I’m not. That’s God’s job. It is my job though, to help to provide constructive criticism, and according to Proverbs 12:1 NLT “To learn, you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate correction”. Just some food for thought. 

I’ve been told I use the word “love” loosely. and I do. That’s the way it’s supposed to be used in my opinion. I may “love you long time” and “love you like i’m gonna lose you” but when it’s time to you show “tough love” that’s exactly what I’m gonna do. Some people can’t handle the type of love I have to give, and that’s OK, cause I can still “love from a distance”. I pray you have an lovely day, but for now, I’m gonna “love you and leave you”. 

I’m a Flower that is constantly growing. Can we be Buds? Can we root for each other and watch each other grow? Thank you for visiting my blog. Stay a little while longer, and read a little bit more. Until next time, XOXO